Self Care Part #2

Be the best version of you!

Hi Friends! I hope you got a chance to read Part 1 of this post.

In my last post I talked a lot about giving yourself permission to prioritize yourself.

In this post I am going to talk about a few habits you should do right now to be the best version of yourself.

  1. Get moving. Move your body. Get your blood flowing. Take a walk, do some yoga, or just do some relaxing stretches. It does not always need to be about burning a bunch of calories. It can also be just thinking about what is good for your body and having the desire to take of your body.
  2. Fruits and Veggies. Nourish your body with all the wonderful antioxidants that fruit and veggies have. You will feel so much better and more energized if you eat food that is good for you.
  3. Hydrate. There are so many benefits to drinking water. I currently do my best to drink half of my body weight in ounces everyday. Jump on Amazon and find a water bottle that you really love, then keep track of how many ounces are in the water bottle and how many of them you should be drinking each day.
  4. Keep your commitments. Sometimes its hard in our busy day to day life to keep all the commitments we make. But if you make it you should keep it, if you reschedule and backout it gets easier and easier to not follow through.
  5. Cherish the things you have, try to get rid of the perfectionist attitude. Life is messy, its not perfect. No one has a pinterest perfect life. Stop trying to fix things or make them better, just allow yourself to love things as they are. If you look at most pictures on Pinterest you will find that what makes the homes and spaces so appealing is the lack of clutter. Decluttering a space is cheap and easy and you will feel so much better if you don’t have to contend with stuff all over surfaces.

God Bless, Jill

Self Care Part #1

Don’t Forget to Prioritize You…….

Hi Friends! Hope you are all doing well!

I did something this week that I have never done before, and it was wonderful. I spent a whole week prioritizing me.

The reason for my week of self care was, I have been have a difficult time lately. I have struggled for quite a long time with anxiety. I also have some other health issues, and the anxiety compounds my already existing health issues. I have felt like I am really struggling to keep up for the past few months so I have decided to take a break. Not just a little break but a big break. My heart, soul, and mind really need me to prioritize me. And this last week that is just what I did.

As anyone who reads my blog knows I have a strong Faith and when I struggle I do my best to turn to the Lord for wisdom and strength. Which is exactly what I did a lot of this last week, and I have to say I can feel my heart healing.

I want to share a bit about my journey this past week. I hope if you are in the same position as I have been, you will give yourself permission to prioritize you.

I spent a lot of time reading my Bible, Praying, and Meditation on what I was reading. I can’t put into words the peace I felt. It was truly remarkable and so replenishing to my soul.

I journaled more that I think I have in the past year. For me journaling is how I think and soul search. I spent a lot of time thinking about what is stressful to me and what made me feel uneasy. I basically started to unpack my emotional backpack. And goodness was there a lot of things to unpack once I started the process. There was one day in particular that I really struggled with one of my current challenges. It was one of those things that I just keep putting on that back burner and not really dealing with because I was feeling too hurt to face my feelings. It was easier to just feel angry and hurt. I think sometimes we don’t deal or face certain struggles as somewhat of a survival. It’s hard for me to explain how much I felt God leading me through this particular situation.

I journaled more that I have think I have in the last year. For me journaling is how I think and soul search. I journaled everyday and sometime multiple times a day. I could feel God leading me each day as I would sit down and think about what was causing me unreast, anxiety, and worry. There was one day in particular that was so hard and so wonderful at the sametime. There is something that I have really been struggling with for the past few months. I have felt hurt and angry. And the worst part is, I have basically have been putting my stressful ugly emotional mess on the back burner. It was easier for me just to be upset, than face how I was feeling. I have been doing a bang up job feeling like a victim. Not Good! When the day came to unpack this emotional turmoil I was feeling. It became clear to me, I also played a part in what has been going on. It was as eye opening experience, not easy to face but I am thankful and humbled by the revelation of a few things I need to work on.

Here I am at the end of my week, and I have a few new perspectives.

Self care does not just mean taking the time to pamper yourself and relax. It is also doing your best to be the best version of yourself. I think everyone has a different set of things they need to work on to be the best version of themselves. For me it starts with giving myself the permission to prioritize myself. That is hard for me, but what I came to understand is, if I am not prioritizing myself I am not going to be my best for my family. And that is so important to me. I want to be there for my family, I want them to know and feel my love, support, and appreciation for them. I want to create a home that is a safe haven for all of us, that we can decompress, laugh, cry, and be together in. A place where my kids can bring their friends to and know that they will be welcomed. A place to gather as a family and create lasting memories.

I hope this inspires you to grab a cup of coffee or tea, sit down in a quite space and spend some time journaling, praying, or reading. I pray the Lord leads you and provides you with the wisdom you need to navigate whatever you may be going through.

God Bless, Jill

My Goals for January

I have finish goal planning for 2019 and breaking down my January goals.

  • Family and Friends 
    • Lunch date with one of my girlfriends
  • Love
    • Date Night
  • Self Care
    • Schedule a evening to pamper myself
    • Get me hair cut and colored
    • Cut out candy
    • Join local gym
  • Future
    • Save 10% of our income
    • Journal Daily
    • Daily Devotional

Here are a few of mine, I wanted January to be very manageable. Since it is the beginning of the year I wanted to start me goals off on the right foot and not go over the top.

Hi Friends! Its so good to be back posting!

I hope you all had a great Christmas!

I love Christmas, its my favorite holiday but I am always happy when its over and I can get back into my routine. We had family over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, AJ and I stayed busy cooking. It was exhausting and delicious. Would not have traded it for anything, I love entertaining.

This was the first Christmas I did not have both of my girls at home, Breanna is in college so it feels different not having her home during the Christmas season. The girls and I often do our Christmas baking, shopping, decorating, and wrapping together. She was missed for a lot of those activities.

I am so enjoying getting back into a routine, and I spent yesterday deep cleaning my house. It was really  hard work but when it was done and I could enjoy all my hard work, I felt so accomplished and proud of myself.

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Happy New Years!

Can you believe it is 2019?!!

I love the new year, its time to start fresh and do some planning, soul searching, and think about the past year. What worked and what did not work.

I am all about planning and putting some goals in place.

Goal setting can be hard. How often do you set a goal and never actually follow it through to completion? I know I have. We all of a lot of things we want to accomplish, but that’s easier said than done. Goals can be excited and scary at the same time to put down on paper. I struggle with making attainable goals for myself. I tend to get a bit too ambitions when I set goals for myself. If you are anything like me or maybe even the opposite and don’t put enough ambition into your goals, then read on my friend!!

Attainable Goal Setting 101:

  1. What do you want to achieve? Why? What about this goal is important to you and how will it better your life? Be very specific, now is the time to dig deep.
  2. Now that you have determined the what and the why, commit to it!
  3. Next ask yourself the following questions. Is it measurable, attainable, can I set a done or completed time to it? If you have answer “yes” to all of these then your on the right track.

Now that you have gone through steps 1 – 3 lets put a plan in place to achieve your goal. For me I do all of my goal planning in my planner. You don’t need to use a planner, a simple notebook will work to.

Planner:

I prefer to use pen and paper when doing my planning. If you are more partial to the digital planner options out there, I’m sure there is a way to get the following system to work for you in a digital format as well.

The planner I use is a 3 ring binder, I love to be able to customize it exactly how I want it. I make and print out my own printables and find some that I purchase on different Etsy shops as well. Just make sure your planner works for you and not the other way around. I have used several over the years and have more often than not found that I was conforming to the planner. I want to conform a planner to my personal lifestyle.

Planner layout by section:

  1. Goals – Create some categories such as, career, finance, personal, health and fitness, and so on and so on. Write down your lifetime goals and yearly goals here. Make sure to put target dates next to each goal. I do monthly goals in this section as well. Ideally you should be taking your lifetime goals and break them down into the next year, then break them down by month. I personally only do one month at a time. If I do more than one month, I find myself getting overwhelmed.
  2. Calendar – This section is for my monthly calendar. My calendar layout must have a notes section running down the side of the calendar. In the calendar itself is where I put down all of my important dates. I never put tasks in my calendar. In the notes section is where I will put my goals for the current month.
  3. Monthly Tasks and Review – In this section I have a page for tasks and a page for review. On the tasks page I put what my top 3 goals are for the month. Then I will lists tasks I need to accomplish for the month. The goals and tasks should incorporate your yearly goals. At the beginning of every month, I refer back to my annual goals and plan out my monthly tasks page. Then at the end of the month I like to do a monthly review. How did your month go? Here is where I put down my success and opprotunites for improvement.
  4. Daily Tasks – This is my daily section to schedule my day and tasks. I have made my own printable for my daily schedule and tasks that works best for me and my lifestyle. If your not in to that type of thing, check out all the different options on Etsy.
  5. Capture – In this section I just use plain notebook paper, so I can “brain dump” everything that I am thinking about or overwhelming me. For me and most people it helps to get all this out of your head and down on paper so you can start to put action plans in place for all of your ideas, tasks, appointments, projects, and goals. I love this section!!